"Go for the cake and eat it in in your life. Go for the cupakes too; they're made of the same stuff as the cake. But don't ever settle for the crumbs. Life is far too short!" Therefore, FOLLOW YOUR CALLING!
And, with cake or cupcakes, many people enjoy a cup of coffee! A dear friend from my Hawaii days, Michael Murakoshi, sent me this wonderful video link that offers a meaningful message ..."the richest person is not the one who has the most but the one who needs the least" LIFE IS LIKE COFFEE-- Author Unknown
This post will give you a new way of looking at yourself, your life, the various choices that you are facing, and also provide you with a powerful tool, a new paradigm, that will be useful for the rest of your life. If you work with children or have young children, this paradigm will help to expand their world of possibilities.
This post deals with concepts that are all contained in my self-paced workbook, Creating Careers with Confidence.
IN THE BEGINNING
Whether you believe in God, angels, guides, the Buddha within, Atman, universal love and energy that unites all life, the beauty and life-force of nature, none of this, all of this, part of this—or if you have no idea at all and feel clueless—welcome to the Life Journey. The truth is that you are here right now on this planet. I believe you are here for a reason. You might agree or disagree, or you might be unsure.
I have offered thousands of workshops and classes on this topic of making career-life choices and “discovering your calling”. I have learned that people with different or no faith tradition still yearn for what the research now recognizes as spirituality, a desire for more meaning and purpose and a sense that they are somehow connected to something or someone or some aspect of life that binds us all in our humanity with all that is in the universe.
The POWER of this new paradigm, CAREER-LIFE, is that it recognizes ALL LIFE ROLES (including work), ALL PEOPLE (women and men, girls and boys, young children, teens, young adults, adults, and seniors), and the ENTIRE LIFE SPAN of each person--from birth to life's completion!
The career-life paradigm VALUES each person and all the life roles they are playing, have played, and want to play someday. Because playing a role means putting time and energy into various roles, every person always is playing at least four to five roles as they are on their life journey. The main nine career-life roles are described further on.
Imagine that "career" is really the way each person gives or receives "care" using ANY of the major life roles. Also imagine that each time a person gives or receives CARE, this "caring experience" can either ALLOW or BLOCK one's personality type from being expressed in the interactions that take place within the various career-life roles. If the roles provide a good "fit" for one's personality type, we call this a congruent fit vs an incongruent fit when the roles block the individual's personality type from being expressed.
The various life roles provide potential environments into which one's personality can be released, thus resulting in an Energy Release (ER) between that person and whatever other person(s) or situation(s) are involved in these life roles. Thus, putting CARE together with the ER (energy release that can either occur or be blocked whenever we interact within these life roles), we have CARE ER or "CAREER".
So you see, career is NOT merely what one does for work or a long-term job, even if one truly enjoys their work. This is really called one's "work" role, one of nine major life roles. Career consists of MULTIPLE life roles, and CALLING(S) can be experienced in ANY of these roles.
The following discussion can change your life and bring more meaning into all that you do with all your career-life roles, including opening up creative ways you can earn income in your work role. Finding purpose in all that you do is an important step to having some sense of happiness, satisfaction, and fulfllment, even when life doesn't seem to move in the direction you wanted or expected. Life
does happen! And, every person DOES MATTER and COUNT, including YOU!
Living life with a sense of purpose and meaning means you can expereince passion in life, real, autheintic, deep-seeded passion for living and being! This is good---actually this is GREAT! Why don't you deserve this!!
Ideally, discover this in your work. This IS possible. And, there are several life roles in which to experience purpose, meaning, and passion, when work is not able to provide you an appropriate outlet for your desire to make a difference, your way! Your work still provides income, and that's important.
Meanwhile, if you DO desire work that provides both income AND purpose, develop a Plan B that helps you actively seek work with more purpose, as you continue to earn income from your "bridge job", an important and useful bridge to someting better.
If you find yourself being covered up by larger pyramids that don’t match you, such as the wrong college major, wrong friends, wrong leisure time activities, this means that these environments do not absorb YOU (your skills, interests, and values), YOUR ENERGY, and this represents an incongruent fit. You should consider eliminating them from your life, and making new choices, so they don’t stunt your growth and the continuing development of your very own self-knowledge pyramid. Blocked energy results in a lack of focus, confusion, stress, depression, and even burnout and compromised immunocompetence, and that's not healthy for you or others close to you for whom you deeply care!
USING AN "ATTITUDE OF ADAPTABILITY" THROUGH ONE'S JOURNEY
Imagine how events might occur in any of the career-life roles, such as the downsizing of your company, a car accident, someone quits their job and you are the next in line for that position, an illness, etc. Some might be situations that simply existed, such as where we were born and raised. Super described these as "situational determinants" (society, family, school, peer groups, the economy) that can influence career-life decisions. He also described "personal determinants", especially one's personality (needs, values, interests, intelligence, and special aptitudes, etc.), what I call one's self-knowledge pyramid, as an important and active agent in the process of career-life decision-making.
What if we had a secret tool to effectively deal with those situational determinants and uncertainties that always surrounds our life journey? Many times, life just happens, and we can't control the events of life-but we CAN control how we respond to those situations with our attitude.
I recently coined and started using the term "attitude of adaptability" that is rooted in the work of Super and a friend and colleague, Mark Savickas, who writes about career adaptability. Career adaptability is defined as the readiness to cope with both predictable and unpredictable tasks and changes in work and working conditions.
My term, "attitude of adaptability", is intended for youth and adults as they deal with ANY of their career-life roles, including work. Teaching this attitude to anyone will facilitate their ability and willingness to have an "openness to the unknown" as they encounter many career-life transitions throughout their lives.
This attitude (and matching skill-sets) can be learned and fostered inside our hearts and minds, and used whenever we need it. The more a person has this attitude, the more they are able to deal with all those situational determinants that might randomly occur during their journey, across their career-life roles.
** I will be introducing a NEW career-life role in a chapter on values I call DOVE (Depth-Oriented Values Extraction) for a book published by the Society for Vocational Psychology that will be available in early 2013.